Transparency: Week 3 2015

OK 2015- week one was equanimity. Week two, resiliency. As week three begins, I’ve been consumed by the notion of transparency. This is one of the most beautiful qualities I witness in people.

To me, transparency is raw. It’s courageous and it’s real. It’s that intangible sense of personal character. And it’s also pretty damn rare. So when I sense it, it’s like a breath of fresh, crisp air. It restores my hope in humanity. And it’s not about being perfect. It’s just about being authentic. It’s become so commonplace for us to wear a mask and portray that idealized self image to the world. We do it through social media, carefully crafting our image to the external world. Hoping that if I tell you that this is who I am then you’ll see me that way and in return help me to uphold that image of myself. It’s all flowing backwards.

We can also fall into the trap of wearing our roles. As if they are the basis of who we are. I’ve been attempting my own social experiment for awhile now and it’s been so amazing. The idea is to remove people from their roles. It’s simple. Anyone can do it. Next time you are in a situation where someone is speaking to you from their role (e.g. customer service rep, cashier, secretary, salesman, teacher etc….), instead of playing your role in return, actually speak to the human being that is behind their job title. Actually experience a real human to human interaction. It’s so inspiring. It almost always leaves me infused with positive energy and a deeper sense of connection to my human tribe.

Transparency is sincere, refreshing and honest. But it’s also something else. It’s courageous. It means we have the balls to speak from a place that’s true to where we are in any given moment. It’s the opposite of the mundane, bullshit exchange of, “How are you? Good, how are you?” It’s like we are sleep talking.

Transparency requires us to be present with our internal state and not veil it with a better looking, micro-managed false exterior. This is about getting real with ourselves and being secure enough to get real with eachother. Because the truth is that none of us are perfect. None of us are always happy, always peaceful, always centered. We are human beings. Our lives get messy. We feel deep hurt, sadness, guilt and anger. And that is o.k.!

And I promise you this: If you truly commit yourself to the practice of transparency, you’ll discover perhaps its most magical side effect- it is contagious. It will inspire those around you to remove their mask and speak from a place of truth. And then we will connect at a deeper level with one another and reflect back to eachother something that may not always be a highlight reel, but it will indeed always be real. And that, I believe, is the very basis of a life lived well. A life lived in truth. A life lived powerfully.

To living transparently…..

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Resiliency: Week 2 2015

One of the most remarkable qualities we humans possess has to be resiliency. This innate capacity to transform pain into progress & growth. Sometimes I think we are stronger than we give ourselves credit for. We may find ourselves stuck in the muck & mire of difficulty yet in time we do indeed heal & come out on the other side. And when we do we are somehow stronger & more unshakable because of it. To my friends who are doing some spiritual weightlifting right now, know you too are a resilient being. Namaste & peace to you.


Equanimity: Week 1 2015

This week for me will be about uncovering equanimity (upeksha) – the underlying stillness that resides behind the commotion of emotion and the busyness of the mind. Most of the struggle I’ve gone through in my life has arisen from deriving my sense of self from how I’m feeling or what I’m thinking. Perhaps yoga’s greatest gift to me has been providing access to that deeper dimension of Self, behind the emotions and the mind where stillness, peace and true equanimity reside – the capacity to accept things as they are, on their own terms, and be cool with that. When I think about what kind of teacher I want to be, it’s the kind that holds a sacred space for each of us to experience that place within ourselves. The place of equanimity.


Receiving Gratitude

When we examine the notion of gratitude from an energetic perspective, for some reason it seems the energy exchange isn’t complete unless it’s received with the presence of an open heart. There can be that bit of awkward internal uncomfortableness that arises within us when someone is bold enough to express genuine gratitude towards us. I think it’s important to not deny these expressions of gratitude through subtle re-directs like “oh it was nothing”. Because if someone is taking the time to express gratitude then it truly was something. Holding heart space together may feel a bit confronting at first but actually receiving someone’s sincere gesture is so very powerful. So keep giving & giving the gratitude but when it boomerangs back to you, remember to receive it too, and that is the truest form of gratitude you can reciprocate.


Connoisseur of Life

My sacred mission is to be a connoisseur of life
And I don’t mean possessing the finest of things
But rather simply living it right
Owning my light. Shining it bright
See I don’t know how much time I have on this tour
But I know I’ll make it more than just acquiring objects or getting somewhere
So each day I train my mind to become more aware not just of its thoughts
But of the presence of love that rents space in my heart
That ever present reminder that we are never apart
Always connected, as one, the very same light that lights up the sun
Dawns within the essence of each & everyone one of us
So lets put faith in eachother & cultivate trust
For the goodness that abides & the compassion that resides in this sacred tribe
And I don’t know about you but I know for me this life is a gift
And my dharma on this trip is to use it to uplift
So lets heal that rift that exists within ourselves so we can unite as sisters & brothers, as friends as lovers, as fathers & mothers.
To be a connoisseur of life means to release the strife
To pass through the dark night & upgrade into the most luminous light
See this is our potential made manifest, so blessed to be given this time to heal to learn to nurture to See that the spark of the infinite resides within me.


Soul Purpose

I woke up today rested with a smile
So blessed I am, its been there awhile
Not just a day, week, month or a year
Been 9 plus now
Since I shed that first happy tear
I’ll never forget that very first sight of those shiny blue eyes
When I looked at your Mom & said lets name him Kai
And I knew in that moment my soul purpose in life
Was to be your father, your friend & your guide
Words are an insufficient medium to express
The way that my heart pounds in my chest
Simply by thinking of you my lips curl into a smile
There is nothing more sacred than raising a child
biased? Yes, yeah maybe that’s true
But you should know how I feel about you
I believe you are special, one of a kind
Your heart full of light and a brilliant mind
Not just concerned for yourself but for others
And perhaps you shine brightest at being a big brother
It’s my life’s greatest honor to serve as your dad
There’s no greater joy than to share what we have
A bond of love I never knew actually existed
Until the day you were born I could have only wished it to be true
And the reality far exceeds the dreams I held for you
Know that you have the power to do anything in this life
And whatever you choose, I’ll be right by your side
Cheering you on with all my love & support till the very end
You are more than my son. You are my very best friend.


The Deepest Part of Me is We

You see, For as long as I can remember
I’ve been on this journey of surrender
Light seeking, truth speaking
And it’s taken so many different turns
There were times I got burned
Times I felt so weak and my future so bleak
I couldn’t see I was just earning my stripes
In those darkest of nights
Stretching my soul – expansion & growth
Now I’m working on clearing this karma
Manifesting my dharma Here on this earth
Each moment is birth When Spirit breathes into me
And the words flow so free
Endless ideas spawn creativity
From the source we pulse
Impulse to awaken
Now we can’t be shaken
Unbound essence is found all around
It’s not bound to a church, temple, yoga mat, holy scripture or a book
The sacred dwells in the wells of ALL the places we look
So I see me in you
The sublime tattoo
inscribed on your heart
We could never be apart
An intertwined tapestry of matter & spirit
I KNOW you can feel it
Owning your bigness isn’t a problem unless your denying mine
See, Together we shine.
So inspire the desire to keep taking it higher
Pay homage to the rishis, the saints, shamans and sages
Now its our turn to propel these teachings through the ages
Take the torch, hold it high
Be yourself, light the sky
There is nothing to contrive
In togetherness we thrive